Planning a wedding comes with many questions. What will your theme be? How many guests will you invite? What type of wedding venue do you want? And so much more.
As you work through all of the wedding-related questions, it’s also important for you and your fiancé to take some time to ask each other about your expectations and what you envision your future to be.
Not sure what you should talk about?
Read on for a few suggestions.
What are your expectations for bachelor/bachelorette parties?
Traditionally, you’ll each have your own bachelor or bachelorette parties. Whether they’re destination events to Las Vegas or Nashville, or local parties with brewery tours or spa days, it’s important for you to understand what your partner is and isn’t OK with.
For example, a groom might want to help plan the bachelor party to avoid any nefarious activities that their partner doesn’t agree with. That said, it doesn’t have to be boring – just maybe not too crazy.
How do you manage your finances?
Finances and how they’re managed is one of the hardest conversations for couples to have. Following some financial management tips for newlyweds can help, but it’s important to have a conversation where you understand each other’s views on money management.
If one of you is a saver and the other a spender, you’ll need to work together to find a budget that works for both of you and that you can both stick to. Being open and honest will only make this process and conversation easier.
Are you happy with your current living situation?
If not, then you should take that into account before your wedding day. This way you can work the cost of a new home into your budget and adjust where needed.
With the cost of an upcoming wedding, you should begin looking at homes as soon as you can. You should also consider a 30 year mortgage rate for lower monthly payments so you’re not taking too much from your wedding budget, but still getting a home you love.
What should you do if wedding planning becomes too much?
Everyone hears horror stories of bridezillas who’ve become overwhelmed by the stress of planning a dream wedding. To avoid this happening to you, it’s important to have a conversation with your fiancé about dividing the planning responsibilities and what to do when facing wedding planning overload.
Have a plan to calmly talk to one another when it’s all become too much, and maybe even take a step back. Delegate tasks to your wedding party or trusted family members to take some of the work off your hands. You can also plan a weekend away for some much needed R&R before the big day.
What is your ideal timeline for starting a family?
Honesty is crucial here. You and your soon-to-be spouse need to be on the same page about family planning – specifically what you are and aren’t ready for. Be open about the family planning methods you’d prefer to use as newlyweds.
We all know the saying: “first comes love…”. But it’s important for you to take the time you need as a couple to be prepared for everything in your future. Having these conversations before your wedding day will help make sure you’re ready for the commitment of marriage.
